The first step that must be taken by the guilty party when striving to reconcile a broken relationship is to go to them admitting you are wrong and ask for forgiveness. Now this is a real problem for most of us because we are naturally full of pride, and we hate to admit that we are wrong. No one likes eating humble pie! We will look for any way out that we can find. We will justify ourselves with reasons such as, what I did really was not that bad therefore they should get over it. We will search for all the ways they have done us wrong and come to the delusion (conclusion )their wrongs against us far outweigh the wrong we have done them. When we are unwilling to take full responsibility for the wrong we have committed relationships will continue to be broken and the former closeness never restored. You have to admit that much of the heartache we experience in this life is caused by relationships that remain broken because people are too proud to confess their wrong. When we truly believe that we are guiltless and somebody accuses us falsely of some wrong, it makes us very angry and justifiably so. This is why so many people reject Christianity because the starting point of the message is that Jesus came "to call sinners to repentance not the righteous" But the good news of the gospel for those who will receive it, and admit their sin and lostness is "behold the lamb of God who take away the sins of the world". Jesus will take your sins away; God will forgive all of your rebellion, and will restore you to a right relationship with God who is now your Father. Behold Jesus; He died for all of your sins past, present, and future. He was resurrected as the proof the debt you owed for all your sin was paid in full. You are forgiven and accepted as God's son or daughter through your trusting in Christ alone as your savior. Those of you who will not admit your sin and look to Jesus to for rescue you from God's just anger; I pray that God will open your eyes. May you behold the beauty of Christ, and the great sacrifice He endured on the cross so that you were given the opportunity to be reconciled to God.
Thursday, September 6, 2007
The heartache of a broken relationship II
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I have found that when parties argue that it less about one not wanting to admit fault. In fact both parties are right. Both parties have failed to meet the needs of the other. Both have failed to give themselves to someone else. Let me illustrate a quick example of a typical dispute between married couples:
You shouldn't have talked to my mother in that way.
Have you seen the way your mother treats you. She treats you like a child.
She's an old lady. She doesn't know better.
She also has to be held accountable for her actions. You let her walk all over you. Later, you take out your frustrations on me
How does such a dispute get resolved? Both have to discover the "rightness" and "wrongness" of each others needs and complaints. This is also where God plays a significant role. What would God do? This isn't an easy question. It can be culturally defined. In a conservative community, it may mean that the woman shuts up and listens to her husband. In a liberal community, the man shuts up and listen to the woman. I have seen Christians in both communities, and both have their own solution to what is moral, what is God's law? Interestingly, if I were in one community or the other, I would be accused of being "anti-God." Is it against God's word to want the balanced solution, to meet the needs of both, to ask for compromise from both? Just depends on what community I am in. That, I find unfortunate.
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